generally work driven, a sort of a recluse and in short
does not possess an iota of trait of a ‘family
man’ (Of course family men are an endangered species
now). Such people are, in a way commitment phobic and
cannot be brought under order which is the very basic
necessity of a family man who shoulders many responsibilities.
Such men (sometimes women) cannot be bound by anything
and are just happy being themselves. In a way, they
symbolize ‘I, me, myself’ and nothing beyond
The next question that arises is – did Sonia not
know about him earlier?
During their courtship, their professional commitment
kept them together as she had featured in three of Selva’s
films. Post marriage, Sonia took a sabbatical and he
was involved in Aayirathil Oruvan which took him away
from her for many long days. Meanwhile trying to fight
ennui and loneliness, she attempted a television entry
but apparently even that did not bring her peace.
She appears like a normal woman with normal expectations
of a married life. This normality must have struck the
discordancy note in their relationship which must have
led to subsequent events.
Sonia and Selva are two nice human beings but apparently
their interests did not meet.
Currently this kind of situation is not new and is common
even in many non-filmi, urban families. The present
day women are at cross roads trying to find a balance
between domestic bliss and professional fulfillment.
However the women from earlier generation were quite
contented just to be identified as someone’s wife
or someone’s mom. Perhaps this has saved many
a marriages then.
What is right and what is wrong? It differs as perspectives
vary. Should marriage be given prime importance? Should
not a woman’s self respect matter? Should the
couple have more tolerance and if so for what? Which
is the true happiness? Does a divorce bring happiness
to the couple and family involved?
Many such questions remain unanswered.
All the same wishing Sonia and Selva loads of happiness
and peace in all their endeavors in life.
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